From time-to-time we discover things that give us pleasure, but we must weigh the cost.
It is well that war is so terrible, otherwise we should grow too fond of it. — Robert E. Lee (Comment to James Longstreet, on seeing a Union charge repelled in the Battle of Fredericksburg (13 December 1862)) (from here)
Robert E. Lee cared. He understood the price of war. He saw the dead, and he remembered what was lost. Imagine being led by generals who see the men and women serving them as “resources”. Imagine serving a general who sees you as a token, something spent in a slot machine, the price for the prospect of victory. In his calculations, you are simply a thing. If you die and are buried in a mass grave, he will lose no sleep. What concerns this general is the pleasure and the glory of conquest, the prospect of gaining more tokens with which to play the game. The loss that concerns this general most is the loss of a battle. He worries he will be put out of the game, not about the damage to his resources or his latest enemy.
How did those such as Hitler, Stalin, Genghis Khan, Alexander the Great, and so forth count the lives they spent in their quests for power and glory? Consider how Alexander the Great is said to have reacted to his unbroken chain of successes.
When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer. (from here)
The sexual conqueror has a similar attitude. He or she seeks an attractive partner in bed, a companion attractive enough and charming enough to make him or her look good. To the sexual conqueror, their “partner” is just a means to an end. Eventually, that partner will have served their purpose — become used up — and the sexual conqueror will seek another conquest.
Like conquerors in war, sexual conquerors leave behind brokenness. Just as the warlike leave a legacy of famine, disease, suffering and death, the indifference of a sexual predator produces broken hearts, diseased bodies, single parent homes, and so on.
Are people just tokens in a game? Are our lives just something for the “great” among us to spend as they will? Are our bodies just entertainment for those who know how to entice us in to bed? If life is sacred — if each human being is a child of God — the answer is no.
War is something we fight in defense of life, not for mere conquest. If a soldier defends people instead of enslaving them, only then can he claim he has a noble calling.
If we give sex to and receive sex from as a gift — from someone we want to cherish for life — then we do well. Because the sex act is part of the gift of life, we cannot play with it. Because the sex act seals a lifelong commitment, we cannot turn it into a recreational toy. Yet conniving sexual conquerors and those who merchandise the cravings of their fellows would have us believe otherwise. In their foolishness, they would destroy both those they prey upon and their own souls.
1 Corinthians 6:12-20 New Living Translation (NLT)
Avoiding Sexual Sin
12 You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. 13 You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies. 14 And God will raise us from the dead by his power, just as he raised our Lord from the dead.
15 Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! 16 And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”[a] 17 But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.
18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.