First let me confess here, I definitely grew up on the wrong side of the tracks and in some dark places, and never concerned myself too much with decorum. Survival yes, decorum not so much.
Okay, so there was one incident where I may even have chewed tobacco on a dare. It was the most hideous thing ever, but it sure did wipe the smirk off of someone’s face and earn me 20 bucks. The dare was simply that girls couldn’t chew tobacco. I settled that, oh yes we can. Why in the heck we would ever want to is another question entirely, but we can.
We can do a lot of things we probably shouldn’t. Just because we can, doesn’t always mean we should. In fact, doing things just because you can is often a bad idea.
So, I really must declare myself to be a self-professed expert on how to be both a lady and not a lady. Also, I simply have to lament the complete decline of western civilization and rant about the sad state of affairs we now find ourselves in. In our quest to promote the idea that girls can do anything, including completely rejecting anything that girls can do, we have really created a monster. Gone is anything that may be considered soft or feminine or heaven forbid, “pink.” Being a lady is apparently something only “old people” do, or so I have been told. Young girls tend to sneer at the very idea. (continued here)
My wife raised our girls. I would like to say I helped, but her hand rocked the cradle far more than mine ever did (The Hand That Rocks The Cradle Is The Hand That Rules The World).
Our girls have grown up to be lovely young women, and they astonish me. My children? Are they perfect? No, but they understand the value of being virtuous, and their husbands love and respect them. Both married thoroughly decent young men that they love, and each understands that precious relationship is priceless and no accident. I just wish I had participated more in making it happen.
What is ruining our young women? I think it is the same thing that is ruining our young men. Successive generations passed the buck. Instead of taking the time to teach our children what to believe and how to behave, we let others claim that responsibility. Thus, when politicians promised to do the job, they took our money and enriched their supporters, particularly teachers unions. Thus, when the mass media offered to “baby sit” our children with children’s programming, advertisers programmed our children with materialistic desires. Thus, when churches offered to teach our children about God, we applauded our own “goodness,” but we did not dare consider whether that teaching was correct or sufficient.
So what is the answer? ‘s post is a start. It helps to explain the value of what is being lost.
Yet the value of being a lady is more than women know, I think. As Genesis tells it, women need good men.
Genesis 3:16 English Standard Version (ESV)
16 To the woman he said,
“I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing;
in pain you shall bring forth children.
Your desire shall be for your husband,
and he shall rule over you.”
How do women find good men? They do so by being ladies and insisting that their men behave like gentlemen.
Women obtain good husbands the same way societies obtain good leaders, by setting and adhering to high standards. If a woman wants a good husband she must be able to give him her love. Sex is not enough. She must care for him, and she must let him know. And she must insist that before she gives herself over to him he has proven his love for her. If a society wants a good leaders, the people must love each other. For the sake of their family, friends and neighbors, they must insist that only men and women of good character, aristocratic citizens who have demonstrated how much they love their neighbors, will be allowed to rule over people they love. Thus, those who are led must also lead.
Because women instill virtue into children, that’s why we personify virtue as a woman, and that is why homes made mostly by women constitute the fundamental building blocks of every society.