BULLYING IS NOT A GAY THING
The profession of victimhood remains alive and well. We have proof in the spat of news stories related to bullying homosexuals. Here are some examples.
- Joel Burns, openly gay Texas councilman, speaks about growing up gay, video goes viral
- Wisconsin colleges join push to end bullying of gay students
- Facebook Teaming With GLAAD To Fight Anti-gay Bullying
These stories would have us believe that homosexuals have a special problem with bullying, but that is not really the case. Bullying has little to do with homosexuality.
So that it can spend our money as fast as possible, the U.S. Government has a website for everything. Thus, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services has a STOPBULLYINGNOW website. Of course, they answer a question or two.
Why Do Kids Bully?
There are all kinds of reasons why young people bully others, either occasionally or often. Do any of these sound familiar to you?
- Because I see others doing it
- Because it’s what you do if you want to hang out with the right crowd
- Because it makes me feel, stronger, smarter, or better than the person I’m bullying
- Because it’s one of the best ways to keep others from bullying me
Wikipedia provides this short profile on bullies.
Research indicates that adults who bully have personalities that are authoritarian, combined with a strong need to control or dominate. It has also been suggested that a prejudicial view of subordinates can be particular a risk factor.
Further studies have shown that envy and resentment may be motives for bullying. Research on the self-esteem of bullies has produced equivocal results. While some bullies are arrogant and narcissistic, others can use bullying as a tool to conceal shame or anxiety or to boost self esteem: by demeaning others, the abuser him/herself feels empowered.
Researchers have identified other risk factors such as depression and personality disorders, as well as quickness to anger and use of force, addiction to aggressive behaviors, mistaking others’ actions as hostile, concern with preserving self image, and engaging in obsessive or rigid actions. A combination of these factors may also be cause of this behavior.
It is often suggested that bullying behavior has its origin in childhood:
“If aggressive behaviour is not challenged in childhood, there is a danger that it may become habitual. Indeed, there is research evidence, to indicate that bullying during childhood puts children at risk of criminal behaviour and domestic violence in adulthood.”
Bullies may bully because they themselves have been the victim of bullying. There is also evidence that bullies have a much higher likelihood to be incarcerated in the future. (from here)
What do bullies have in common? Except for being self-centered, not much. Bullying is not about the “victim,” the person who is bullied; it is about the bully. That is, bullies bully others because of their own problems and desires. Therefore, if anybody owns the problem of bullying, it is the bullies themselves.
There is no doubt bullies cause great suffering, but the bully is ultimately the victim of his (or her) own behavior. Because various groups regard bullying as immoral, a health issue, and/or criminal behavior; bullies risk being ostracized or punished more severely by both man and God.
Because bullying is so commonplace, I suspect most people can relate some experience with bullying. As a military brat, I repeatedly experienced the new kid in school treatment. Thus, school ended up being something I endured. I liked learning, and I liked most of my teachers, but I had no desire for the company of some of my classmates.
What sustains people through bullying? I have no magic answer. I only know what sustained me. I went home to a family that loved me, and I knew the bullies had more problems than me. It is hard to fear people we pity.
Michael-In-Norfolk – - Coming Out In Mid Life, of course, covered this news in a several posts. His latest is How Religion Is Killing Our Most Vulnerable Youth. As the title suggests, Michael blames religious right.
Michael Bindner of The Christian Left explains the “ignorance of Fr. Scalia, Carl Paladino, and the message of gay marriage. Effectively, Bindner argues that if we don’t accept the normalcy of same-sex marriage, we are driving homosexuals to suicide. This sort of rationalization is the reason homosexuals want the status of victimhood.